Why no phones in school?

We believe in nurturing childhood. Evidence shows that early exposure to smartphones and social media is linked to rising rates of anxiety, depression, and social withdrawal in adolescents. Our goal is to preserve time and space for kids to grow, connect, and focus on what matters most—without digital distractions.

Is this about being anti-technology?

Not at all. We support thoughtful, age-appropriate technology use that supports creativity, learning, and connection. But smartphones and social media are designed to be addictive and often undermine attention, sleep, self-esteem, and relationships. This policy is about timing and intentional use, not rejecting technology altogether.

What kind of phone is a safe choice before getting a smartphone?

Yes! Basic phones without internet access, social media, or app stores are perfectly acceptable and can be a smart solution for communication. See this link for some good “basic phone options.”

Do smartwatches count as smartphones?

Most smartwatches with texting or app capabilities are functionally similar to smartphones. 

What are students taught about tech boundaries at school?

We reinforce healthy boundaries around technology and promote habits of presence, mindfulness, and respectful communication in our school culture.

Won’t my child feel left out if other kids have smartphones?

That’s exactly why we’re doing this together as a community. When families join the pledge collectively, it eases the pressure on each individual child. Our aim is to create a culture where kids are free to be kids—without constantly comparing devices or social media status.

How can I respond when my child says “everyone else has one”?

“Lots of families at TLC are making the same choice.” Kids are more likely to respect boundaries when they know they’re not alone.

Is there a specific age when smartphone use becomes safer?

Research suggests that after age 13, children begin to have more cognitive and emotional capacity to handle complex social media interactions—but even then, boundaries are essential. Many experts recommend waiting until age 16 and monitoring use closely.

Do smartphones and social media affect girls and boys differently? 

Yes. Girls are more likely to experience negative mental health effects from social comparison, body image pressures, and online exclusion. Boys are more vulnerable to compulsive gaming, pornography, internet addiction, and disengagement. Both benefit from delayed and limited exposure.

Is texting really that bad if it’s not on a smartphone?

Texting may seem harmless, but it can carry many of the same risks as social media—especially in middle school. Group chats often lead to exclusion, drama, or late-night messages that interrupt sleep and increase anxiety. Even one-on-one texting can pull kids away from face-to-face interactions or create an unhealthy attachment to their device. That’s why we encourage families to delay or tightly limit texting as well, especially outside of direct communication with caregivers.